In the second part of my life, I am now beginning to realize there is only one life – ONLY ONE. I'm looking inside myself more often, and I'm less obsessed with activities that bring pleasure.
As a result, I'm also changing my habits. They are not picked at random, instead they all help me to become the kind of person I have always wanted to be. I just didn’t quite realize that.
My additional project is to be more aware of single moments as my life unfolds.
I love investigating what has been written by wiser than me and how to apply that wisdom to my life and the people around me.
To be of assistance to other people I moved into coaching.
I'm an MBA graduate with 20 years of sales experience. I had my fair amount of successes and failures, quarters when I delivered my targets, and times when I struggled with the kind of offerings I had in my sales basket.
Working in sales was fun until there came a moment when I realized it's time to do something different. Since I already had a vast reservoir of knowledge in Psychology of Motivation from my University, I decided to use it better to benefit more people.
To complete that mission, I needed to complete a few learning programs:
Master’s degree in Psychology,
Coaching Course with accreditation from European Mentoring and Coaching Council,
A yearly course in Psychological Assistance including managing and running workshops,
An eight weeks course in Motivational Interviewing,
A Habit Coach certification on Coach.me,
1,5-year postgraduate studies in Mindfulness and Compassion,
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy course accredited with Oxford Mindfulness Center - group sessions.
When I read how mindfulness helped Google employees to boost productivity and increase well-being, I was impressed and inspired.
On the operational level, these benefits include better attention management with everyday tasks, a more relaxed response mechanism in challenging situations, and greater creativity.
Various elements of the "Performance Equation" need to be evaluated on the strategic level, and possible ways to enable intrinsic motivation need to be discussed.
Apart from the "what" we are trying to achieve, we also need to ensure that we have adequate autonomy, positive relations, and room to build our competencies. We are on the safe side if we tend to these needs continuously, just like with vitamins. Workable methods to cope with stress are exactly important.
By being more mindful, we can better understand what is important to us, deal with different distractions more efficiently, and enjoy our life moments as they arrive. There will always be difficulties and stress, even pain sometimes, but we can cultivate a more productive way of dealing with them; we can choose an aware response rather than an automatic reaction like avoidance or initiating a chain of negative thoughts.
In the modern world, more and more people get stuck in a new kind of hamster wheel. We now feel like we not only have to keep up with work and family obligations. We’re also told we need to constantly work on improving ourselves and our productivity.
But… to what end?
I believe that productivity shouldn’t be an end goal. Rather, it should be a means to become the person you want to be. That’s not the same as what your environment, friends, family or your boss asks you to be.
But sometimes, it can be hard to tell one from the other.
There’s a certain automatism in the way most people live their lives. Once you’re moving along an established track, your mind rationalizes staying there - even against your best interest. Deep down, you may already know you need a change: more time for your family, a career change, or just a kinder relationship with yourself. However, your mind’s priority is to keep you safe - and this usually means sticking to what you know.
I’m here to help you make that change sooner rather than later. And, it doesn’t need to be a huge leap. A tiny step, when taken at the right time and in the right direction, will snowball into deep transformation.
Coaching isn’t a step-by step procedure. The process is unique for each client - but keeping this in mind, there are a few “stepping stones” that you can expect to happen in our work together.
Telling things that are important from the things that are urgent is important from the start; urgent things hijack attention while you neglect important things. Establishing where your intrinsic motivation comes from and learning to connect to it on a regular basis is another defining characteristics of the process..
Bottom line: On your way to your goals, your life is going on! You don’t have to postpone your life “until you’ve become someone.”
I run my workshops and coaching sessions on zoom or in a chat-based model on Coach.me. It is also possible to work in a hybrid model - have a regular chat on Coach.me and use zoom to discuss the progress in more depth.
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